Thursday, November 24, 2011

How to turn him on



Ladies, we all know that the way to a man’s heart is not through his stomach, but through his pants. So it can be a nice surprise for him if you turn him on first, rather than vice versa. If you want to drive him wild and become the best he’s ever had then put these top tips into practice:


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The five senses

Sight, smell, touch, taste and hearing; we all know what the five senses are, but do you work them during sex? Before you jump into bed light a scented candle and put on some music. Wear a flavoured lip gloss, some perfume and something silk. You could even introduce some tasty food; strawberries or cream are failsafe classics. To finish off, whisper naughty things into his ear and purr softly. You can also heighten the experience with a blindfold.
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Dress up

Bondage, latex, frills and panties; there’s a lot of kinky kit on offer. However, you don’t always have to look like some kind of gadget girl to send thrills through his body. Keep it simple with some stilettos. If you can’t walk very well in heels, don’t worry. Just wearing them in bed is enough to please him. You can turn up the heat by adding some sexy stockings or socks. Other simple yet effective props include wearing nothing but a simple leather belt or even a wig.

Tease

Teasing a man makes every touch sensational. Begin by telling him that he can’t touch you, but that you can touch him. Start to kiss him, working from his head down. Linger around his groin, but don’t actually touch him there. Then rub, kiss, tickle and squeeze his whole groin area, but again don’t touch his penis. He’ll soon be begging for more. You can take this one step further by wearing some clothing that is revealing, but that covers up some of your best bits.

Surprise

Sometimes your man may feel like he wants sex more than you, so why not make him feel wanted by surprising him? When he’s in the house, you could dress up in a sexy outfit and wait on your bed until he finds you. Or you could walk past him naked. As you walk out of the room make sure you look back over your shoulder and shoot him a cheeky smile or blow him a kiss – he’ll instantly know what you want.

Rub his perineum

Your man has a perineum, which is the area of skin between his testicles and anus. This small area often gets overlooked during sex, but he would love it if you gave it some attention. Firstly, stand behind your man. Start to stoke his penis and kiss his neck. Place two fingers on his perineum and rub. Try to do this for a few seconds at a time, repeating until he’s fully aroused. You could also work this area during oral.

Use your hair

Your hair is your greatest weapon in the battle to try to drive your man wild. Firstly, prepare your hair. Use a leave-in conditioner. Then before you pounce on your guy, take a perfume you know he likes and spray it onto your brush. Then comb your hair with the brush. Once you’re in bed blindfold him, take your locks and start to stroke and tickle his hot body. The combination of touch and smell will seduce him in seconds and leave him wanting more.

Message him

Letting your man know that you’re thinking of him, and thinking about him in a sexual way, is a big turn on. Send him a message, it can be something simple like “I really want you tonight”, or something a little more risqué; do what you feel comfortable with. It sounds so simple, but it gets results. Your man will now be having kinky thoughts about you all day and as soon as you walk through the door he won’t be able to resist you.
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Are you having problems in the bedroom because of your size? You should not worry about it since there are a handful of penile exercise to increase size, help with erectile dysfunction and of course increase hardness.
Though there are a lot of healthy foods for stronger erections to consume an hour before you hit the sack, there are exercises which will help you a great deal. Boldsky has put together six best penile exercise to increase size.

If these simple exercises are performed by you on an every day basis, you will get good results in no time. Simultaneously , you will also get to see a lot of miracles in the bedroom which will surely put a smile on your face. So, if you want to improve your abilities as a man, here are some of the best penile exercises to increase size.
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Exercise 1
Do It With Gestures Use the ‘okay sign’ hand gesture as the first penile exercise to increase size. All you need to do is hold the penis in the okay sign, slowly grip your shaft and pull it at the same time. You need to stretch it to different directions for at least 7 minutes. Doing this once in two weeks will make you see the difference.
Exercise 2
The Thumb One of the best penile exercise to increase hardness is the by using the thumb. Hold your manhood at the tip and pull it gently and firmly downwards. Place the thumb right at the lower part of your penis while the rest of your fingers support its shaft. Repeat this exercise to increase hardness every 10 seconds before you head to the bedroom.
Exercise 3
The Stroking Method Slowly grip your penis and stroke it in a downward motion. However, do not grip it too tight as you move it up and down, as you might impede blood circulation. The main purpose of this penile exercise to increase size is to allow better blood circulation in your penile head.
Exercise 4
Warm Towels By using a warm towel, squeeze all the hot water from it completely and place it around your manhood. The warmth from the hot towel enhances the blood flow to the penis which thus helps in erectile dysfunction and also helps to increase size.
Exercise 5
In Erection This penile exercise to increase size might be a little difficult for you to do since it needs to be done during an erection. Start by stretching it sideways, in different directions for 10 seconds. This needs to be done at least twice in the week if you want to see results. Note – try to avoid early ejaculation. This is one of the best penile exercises for erectile dysfunction.
Exercise 6
The Perfect Stretch Start by holding your penis from the base and gently pull it downwards. When stretching it gently, make sure to hold the stretch for about ten to fifteen minutes. This is one of the best penile exercises to increase size and also to increase hardness.

Friday, June 17, 2011

Sexless in the city




ARNOLD Schwarzenegger blamed it all on his sexless marriage to Maria Shriver, never mind the fact that his ‘sexless marriage’ fetched him four kids. But Schwarzenegger's plight surely evoked sympathy, secretly at least, among many a married couples in India, who have been dragging their sexless marriages for years.

Experts caution that the number of couples in such marriages is on the rise and it’s no more uncommon to find couples who haven’t even consummated their marriage and reach out to a counsellor for help. Garima and Ritesh Jain (names changed) are one such example.

On the outside, they seem to have everything going for them. Both husband and wife in their thirties hold plum posts in multinational companies, but the fat pay cheques they get at the end of each month haven’t been able to fill the void in their eight-year-old marriage.

"My husband was unable to perform in the bed. Soon after the marriage we tried several times, but somehow we weren't able to consummate the marriage. And then somehow we got busy with our lives," says Garima. At one point of time, the couple wanted to separate. "I went back to live with my family, but they insisted I go back and carry on with the marriage. That's when we decided to see a counsellor," says Garima.

Their counsellor, Dr Aruna Broota, told us living in sexless marriages is an emerging trend – something that she had to deal with all the time. "Indian society is very rigid, and this couple did not want to separate because of social shame and economic insecurity. We are governed by very conservative social norms and people live in loveless sexless marriages without letting it be known," says Dr Broota.

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DRAGGING ON

THE STORY of Garima and Ritesh finds echoes in a website called the experienceproject.com. The website allows people to post their experiences in certain situations and have a section for people in sexless marriages.

Here’s what a woman called Mrs India wrote: "I had an arranged marriage 15 years ago. I was too scared to leave because I didn't know where to go if I did leave. I knew that I wouldn't be happy back at my parents so I stayed. My marriage was sexless from the start. I initiated it every time, and noticed he never made a move. I blamed it on his family because we lived with his parents. When we moved to our house away from his parents it was still the same, but I was still in denial. I thought it would be better if we had kids. I literally forced him to have sex with me so that I could get pregnant. I sobbed my heart out afterwards because I felt so ugly and unwanted." Mrs India did get pregnant, but her husband didn't care much about her pregnancy.

She further writes: “My marriage is not just sexless, it’s emotionless too. The only time I saw any emotion was when I told him I was leaving him. I feel ugly and dead inside and it’s frustrating when others that don’t know my situation tell me how pretty I am and how lucky my husband is."

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SEXLESS AND LOVING IT

THERE are several people who go on living a farce in the name of a marriage due to societal pressure and the stigma attached to the D-word (divorce).

But there’s another breed of couples which is quite happy with an asexual arrangement. “For them marriage is more about companionship than sexual pleasure,” says Jitendra Nagpal, senior consultant psychiatrist, VIMHANS.

“These couples are emotionally interested in each other. But they are somehow jolted from slumber, when they are pressured by their families to produce off-springs,” he says.

MARRIAGE BREAKERS

THIS impatient generation has also given birth to another breed that believes in calling the marriage off at the drop of a hat. “They are very bold and vocal about it.

There are women who openly say that my husband has a very low libido and is unable to perform. People belonging to this category head straight to the court,” says Nagpal adding that being so vocal about once sex life may not be that great a virtue.

“It is difficult for a man to admit that he has a low libido. Female counsellors have a tough time in counselling such men. And that’s why it is important for a male counsellor to be present during the counselling session,” he adds.

WHAT STATS SAY

ON AN average Nagpal has to deal with at least two to three such cases every week. “Over the past 10 years the number of couples seeking counselling for sexless marriages has increased fivefolds,” says Nagpal.

About 80 per cent cases are because couples are unable to take out time for sex.

And about 10-15 per cent of the couples actually have problems because of certain lifestyle disorders such as smoking, alcoholism, drug addiction, and obesity.

But the most important factor that leads to sexless marriages is the concept of sexuality.

“Sex is not all about that threeminute act. There’s more to it. Sex is taken for granted just like, exercise, diet, hygiene and sleep. Because of their ‘busy’ lives, people compromise on these factors. It is ironical that animals are still enjoying their lives by taking these things seriously,” says Nagpal.

It has become monotonous, boring and predictable for most urban couples.

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Romance is an important part of sexual health, but sadly it has gone missing in most modern marriages. Dr Kamal Khurana, relationsh counsellor, Purple Alley, blames it on the taboo attached to sex in India.

“Women here are not much informed about sex and men derive most of their knowledge from porn,” he says. “Of course there is a mismatch. I know of a woman married to a sex fiend who abused her for 10 years. She hated having sex with him. Such a marriage is equal to a sexless marriage because there is no emotional bond,” says Khurana.

The woman finally found that missing emotional quotient outside her marriage and sought for a divorce.

A sexless marriage can lead to different psychological disorders. Dr Broota cautions that it leads to depression, sudden anger outbursts, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD).

“It also leads to several other phobias. A person in such a marriage might be scared of going into an elevator, for instance,” explains Broota.

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PRESCRIPTIONS

The brain is said to be the biggest sex organ. And so experts prescribe a long-term therapy session for couples in sexless marriages.

Dr Khurana believes in forging a bond of friendship between the husband and the wife. “They should first become friends and learn to trust each other and then we ask them to start hugging and kissing each other. It is a very long-term process.”

Nagpal says that couples should compliment each other at least once a day, instead of ticking each-other off.

“It also helps in recalling the pleasurable moments you might have enjoyed in the past. It can act as a booster for sex." Remaining asexual in a marriage is a personal choice. But dragging a sexless marriage is not very wise.

Seek the help of a counsellor or a sexologist in case you are sexless in the city and not particularly happy about it.

Reproduced From Mail Today. Copyright 2011. MTNPL. All rights reserved.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

A good sex life 'helps you live longer'


Nadbraham Meditation For Couples A beautiful variation of this technique for couples. Partners sit facing each other, covered by a bedsheet and holding each other’s crossed hands. It is best to wear no other clothing. Light the room only by four small candles and burn a particular incense, kept only for this meditation. Close your eyes and hum together for thirty minutes. After a short while the energies will be felt to meet, merge and unite.



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Sexercise!

As anyone who's ever failed to make it past the first month's attendance on an annual gym membership knows, actually fitting a regular workout into your daily routine is easier said than done. But there is one form of exercise that, done right, you're guaranteed to want to make time for. That's right, ladies, sex isn't only about pleasure; with a little energy and imagination it can provide a great workout too.

The naked truth

A good session in the sack burns approximately 150 calories for every 30 minutes you indulge – better than a yoga class (at approximately 115 calories) and the equivalent to a brisk half-hour walk. And it's not just the nitty-gritty of sex itself – snogging alone burns between 60-90 calories in the same timeframe (depending on just how 'French' your kissing gets), while a vigorous half hour of oral sex can add another 120 calories to your sexercise total. Indeed, according to the Kinsey Institute the average human loses nearly five pounds a year through having sex (while for those of you bemoaning the fact that you ain't getting any, an energetic masturbation session can reap similar rewards).

And the benefits aren't just calorific: sexual activity increases the flow of blood to your organs, flooding them – and the surrounding muscles and cells – with fresh oxygen and hormones and encouraging the removal of waste products as the blood is replaced. The rush of endorphins released by sexual pleasure has been found to help relieve stress, alleviate minor pain and boost the immune system. It's even claimed that sex can help lower your cholesterol levels. You might never need to visit the doctor again!

Positioning

To get the most of out of a session, however, you need to do a little bit more than lie back and think of the homeland – heavy breathing alone does not an effective workout make.

A full 22 per cent of couples admit to only ever having sex in the missionary position, but for maximum workout potential, creativity's the name of the game. First and foremost, get active – regularly changing sex positions keeps you moving, which equals more calories burned. As a rule of thumb, any position that puts you in equal or greater control of the session – and therefore in control of the energy you're expending – is good.

Toning up

To target specific areas of the body, think about what a position involves. Being on top is pretty obviously going to get those thighs working. But to really go for the burn, take your weight into your feet rather than just your knees and use the muscles in your thighs and bum to control your thrusts, leaning back onto your hands to work the upper arms as well. The idea is to use as much of your body as possible: arch your back and work those hips – anything to get those calories burning while toning up specific body parts.

It's a win-win situation: as you become fitter and more agile you can get even more creative. Before you know it you'll be balancing on one toe, legs akimbo, arms swinging recklessly on a chandelier. OK, so maybe that's a little too Samantha Jones for most of us, but the point is to get involved and, most of all, to enjoy it. Your body (and your ever-grateful partner) will thank you for it.

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London, Jan 18 (ANI): A new study has revealed that a great sex life will not only help you feel and look younger - it will also help you live longer.

Dr Eric Braverman, an anti-ageing expert from the US, has written a new book 'Younger (Sexier) You,' in which he says that sex not only raises your hormone -levels (so keeping you young), but can also boost your metabolism, brain function, heart health and immunity.

Braverman says that coffee can help boost a flagging libido, while snacking on peanuts can enhance arousal, reports the Daily Mail.

Eating brown rice can help combat sexual coldness, while avocadoes might increase your capacity for pleasure.

Braverman also points to a study by Queen's University in Belfast that suggested having sex three or more times a week reduced the risk of heart attack or stroke in men by half.

Orgasms are thought to fight infection - increasing the number of infection-fighting cells by up to 20 per cent.

A recent study also found that greater sexual activity in older men might protect them against prostate cancer.

According to the doctor, the best aphrodisiacs are asparagus, bananas, cabbage, celery, figs, oysters and sea veggies.

But it's not just about the mechanics of sex. Healthy sexual function is also about how your brain reacts to the messages it's receiving from your body, he adds.

When your brain is working at its peak, brain chemicals are produced and dispersed at the correct levels. A reduced sexual desire can apparently be the first sign there's a problem with one of the four key brain chemicals - dopamine, acetylcholine, GABA and serotonin.

The following spices can also boost dopamine levels: basil, black pepper, cayenne, chilli peppers, cumin, fennel, flax seeds, garlic, ginger, mustard seed, rosemary, sesame seeds, tarragon and turmeric.

Spices good for boosting acetylcholine include allspice, basil, cumin, peppermint, sage, thyme and turmeric.

Alcohol increases GABA -levels, but make sure you stop at one or two glasses a day - a man might not be able to maintain an erection and a woman could nod off.

Good antidepressant spices for serotonin include anise, dill, marjoram, nutmeg, peppermint, saffron, spearmint and turmeric. (ANI)

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Health Benefits of Sex

The uninitiated keep wondering how it feels, the more seasoned ones vow by its pleasures and no one can ever say NO to it—yes, I am talking about Sex.

Though it occupies the human mind unlike anything else, it seems that most people don’t realize that sex isn't just about fulfilling your carnal desires. There is sufficient, unquestionable scientific proof that underlines the health benefits of sex. In fact, sex surfaces as one of the most comprehensive and effective activities you can indulge in from a health perspective. Some of the most documented and proven health benefits of sex have been listed below:

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Sex Boosts Your Immunity

The principle of your mind and body’s health being interrelated is best exemplified by sex. For starters, the act raises the synthesis of immunoglobulins. These are antibodies or our immunity compounds that help us fight infections. People with a more-than-basic level of sexual activities, per week, tend to retain a higher immunoglobulin concentration, making them more immune to common infections.

Sex Alleviates Common Infertility Problems

With stressful lifestyles, many men are prone to suffering from lowered sperm count or poor semen quality. These are serious barriers for couples trying to conceive. It has been researched that regular and enjoyable sex helps men to overcome these issues. Their semen improves in quality and quantity and the stress-relieving properties of sex ensure that their sperm is healthier, more motile and penetrable. The act of sex ensures that blood is properly circulated across the body, including the penile tissues, and absorption of nutrients is more uniform.

Health Benefits of Sex

Sex Relieves Stress

Overall reduction of stress is perhaps the biggest, most widely-accepted benefit of sex. It is believed that higher anxiety and stress levels are responsible for initiating most health problems prevalent today. With regular sex, psychological health is improved, particularly problems related to mood swings, depression and sleep. The act of intercourse helps to stimulate production of hormones that are required for overcoming stress and ensuring healthier behavior.

Sex Keeps You Physically Fitter

Health Benefits of Sex

Sex has an amazing calorie-burning and cardiovascular conditioning effect. It exercises nearly every muscle of the body, including areas like the abdomen, hips and thighs that are the common weight-gain areas for most people. Sex might not help you become muscular but it works-out the body in a beautiful manner. The increased supply of blood means that the body has a greater chance of eliminating waste products and providing nourishment in a more balanced manner to various organs. Increased levels of sexual hormones help to fortify the muscles and bones with critical nourishment. These hormones help to prevent onset of heart diseases. Working the pelvic muscles, intercourse helps to prevent conditions like incontinence and hernias.

Sex Gives Your Skin Unique Radiance

It is usually thought that only women have the after-glow that is essentially a result of their hormones being produced aplenty during sex. However, this is applicable to men too. Yes, sex behaves like a psychological and physical boost for the human body. The circulation of blood rises, more oxygen is pumped into the body and sexual hormones are released copiously. The result is a sort of radiance that the best of moisturizers and make-up kits cannot compete with. It seems to take off years from your face, making you appear refreshed and cheerful.

Health Benefits of Sex

Sex is an Instant Pain-killer

The feeling of happiness that accompanies and follows intercourse is due to the rise in the secretion of endorphins. These hormones are required for establishing a relaxed state of mind. Sex also induces release of oxytocin, which along with endorphin, is one of nature’s most potent painkillers—everything from unexplained bodyache to serious conditions like arthritic or PMS pains can be relieved. (Health, MensXP.com)

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